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5 Top Charisma Killers For Guys

Are you guilty of one of them?

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I’m probably not the most knowledgeable person on the subject…..Wait, did you see how I just set that up? Within the first sentence, I already pretty much told you not to bother reading!

We sabotage ourselves all the time like this and hardly notice. We finally do notice when people don't act interested in the stories we are telling or we aren’t invited to events.

Get rid of these 5 charisma drains and you might be a little better off.

1. Energy-ducking

We all want to play it cool but can end up giving off more of an unattractive air of detachment. Guys are especially prone to this because, at some point, it got cool to grow a beard and get into Stoicism. Too stoic of an attitude is bad for cultivating the charisma needed though to stay memorable in social interactions. If people are telling you a story, they are going to want to engage emotionally to some degree. Being stone-faced can quickly go from cool to disinterested.

Some level of disinterest can spark some interest from the other person but if they start carrying the whole conversation and you’re not giving them enough, they’ll probably end up going somewhere else. Even when people are sucking up to you…