Here’s what I learned

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I’ve never really liked shoes. I am not totally against them, but I always wondered what it would be like to go totally shoeless. 2020 was a weird year. Working remote and staying indoors mostly, I saw an opportunity to make it weirder.

With only a few exceptions, I went barefoot for the year and learned some interesting things I want to share, in case you’re curious about trying.

Judgement

Society does not like feet. Shoes are what separates us from the animals, and most people don't care to be reminded about our relation. Walking outside with…


Sex

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Based on lots of research, even way before the pandemic, it is clear that young unmarried men are having a lot less sex. The sexual activity of married men, unmarried women, and gay males all have stayed constant through recent years according to this article. Why are young males 18–25 having less sex?

I asked a female counterpart

Because of the internet, women have the most dating options in human history. A lot of dating occurs via dating apps, accessing women to a wide selection of potential suitors. Hundreds of these suitors are messaging them looking for sex. It has made women even more selective…


I worked in the fast-food, service, and retail industry all the way from age 13 through college. It’s hard and busy work, but I actually liked that about it. It kept me moving, working around a kitchen was exciting, and you meet great people. The hardest thing about the job was all the dickheads and Karens that come in and seem to want to make your life a living hell.

Online commentary is even worse, with disrespectful “burger-flipper” rhetoric constantly streaming. “Get a real job” “This job is meant for kids” and “Do something with your life” seem to have…


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If you are an angry person and haven’t heard of “covert contracts”, please, please read on. I am by no means perfect, but discovering what they are and how to avoid them was the lynchpin to becoming a happier man.

What are “covert contracts”?

“Covert contracts” are expectations for outcomes of reciprocity that are not openly expressed. Because they are not expressed, no one else knows what you are thinking and it leads to internal conflict and weakening of relationships.

Do you ever find yourself lashing out? It probably has a lot to do with covert contracts.

Examples:

“I did so much for this…


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I was recently named a Top Medium Writer last month. I was delighted to earn the extra bonus and it felt good, but was also a bit confused. Why me?

I think that I do hold a reasonable mix of self-respect and humility in my writing. It’s ok, but it’s not the best. I do try to put effort and convey my ideas as clearly as possible, but I experiment quite a bit, rarely chase trends, and don't usually write what the larger publications want.

I haven’t written an article in a month. The last few I’ve written months ago…


Last year, I wrote a widely-read article called, “I Tried the Maffetone Method For a Year” exploring what the method is, my experience, as well as the upsides and downsides. It’s simple yet effective in running long distances, building aerobic conditioning, burning fat, and ultimately getting faster while reducing injury.

The Method: You take 180 and minus your age, doing all your runs under that prescribed heart rate(bpm).

As I began another cycle this year, I am learning tons more. I am realizing why I failed before and why so many others don't succeed.

The Need for Speed

The mainstream running culture is steeped…


An IG story showed me we have more in common than I thought

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I have a hard time relating with most of the people I’m connected with on social media. I know we don't see eye to eye on a lot of social issues and it makes communicating awkward. It feels like everyone is their own island nowadays. However, on a whim, I decided to share the old ice-cream truck display from when we were all kids. I didn't think much of it or that I would get much of a response, but the results were staggering.


Learning

Clue: It’s in your hands

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I am obsessed with learning things faster. I’ve embraced my impatience as a virtue, as it has led to the creativity that finds ways to cut learning time.

Learning a language takes more than Duolingo. It involves extreme immersion. Surrounding and submerging yourself with the language you want to learn so that it becomes second nature. My mother was an immigrant that learned basic English in a matter of months out of necessity. We often don’t have the same circumstances, but we need to create them if we really want to become fluent.

Important

According to Steve Kaufman, linguist master and…


Money

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You finally have the funds, should you save it or invest? Financial influencers have had different takes on this recently. Robert Kiyosaki from Rich Dad, Poor Dad has been paraphrased saying, “Don't let the money sit in your savings account, it’s a waste. Invest it so your money can grow.” Gary Vaynerchuk has also come out this year urging people to “Save cash!”

Who’s wrong? Well, no one and everybody. People feel the need to storm towards one camp over the other, but really these perspectives are just parts of a more comprehensive financial strategy.


Going bare for Bitcoin

I have worked diligently this year to get my finances in order and build a sound investing strategy. But all this excitement over Bitcoin has me FOMO’ing hard. I wanted to get some but wasn’t willing to sell my car, eat ramen all month, or take out of any of the accounts I worked hard to put together. Instead, I wanted to get some more “meat” on the table. How would I make a few hundred dollars so I could invest? …

Bradley S.

Writer and guinea pig behind the Worst Runner. Experimenting with running and life.

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