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I Acted As My Parents Divorce Lawyer

and it got ugly

Brad

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My most traumatic childhood experience ironically was as an adult. I acted as a mediator between my parents during their divorce and it was a mess. I definitely don't recommend ever doing that. If your parents are getting divorced, stay the hell away as much as you can!

The Experience

My parents both agreed to the divorce part, but like any other divorce, it’s the money part that gets nasty. Putting a value on everything and then trying to split it is hard to do when you don't trust or love the other person any longer. It gets nasty because both parties think there’s only one winner, but in reality, everyone loses.

My parents owned a lot of assets and both didn't want to pay the lawyers to battle it out because they would lose too much money. Instead, they asked me in the middle to work it out between them since they are unable to talk to each other. If my dad is even in the same room as my mother or she hears his voice, she gets so mad that she feels like she is going to have a heart attack. I care about them so I was always willing to help out any way I could.

It’s amazing how manipulatively it went down each time. My mother nonchalantly asked if I can run this document over to my dad so he can review it…

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