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Psychology
These are 5 types of gifts I have either given, gotten, or seen exchanged that should be reconsidered. Please just don’t do them. Here we go:
The Commitment
This is the worst one. The worst it gets is committing someone else to a living thing. I’ve seen a lot of people give pets, especially dogs, and it’s just not cool in most cases. Someone may have wanted to pick out their own pet, develop a natural connection, and had a specific breed in mind.
If you’re a parent, congratulations, you just earned yourself a decade or two of responsibility. If you’re not, you have just pressured someone else to inherit the responsibility. They will learn to love the animal, but it’s cruel to put them in this position.
The commitment gift can come in milder forms. Basically, gifting commitment to an event can cause more stress than pleasure. Also, gifting anything that requires yourself can also come on a little strong. Skydiving or tickets to a concert next weekend together lacks the self-awareness that perhaps I have something else planned for that date, don't want to go anywhere, or don’t want to go with you.
Exception: We already planned it.
