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Is “Weaponized Incompetence” ruining relationships?
When people don’t want to do something, they’ll do it shitty so no one asks them to do it again. Enough people noticed it and now it has been coined as “weaponized incompetence.” Its main focus now is with men in relationships, as couples struggle throughout the U.S. attempt to divvy up domestic responsibilities.
Men are not widely accustomed to doing dishes, grocery shopping, laundry, and some of the other thankless jobs around the household. When they lived at home or were single, they either didn’t perform these duties or they performed them at the standard with which they are comfortable or accustomed. It’s very apparent when discerning between a bachelor pad and a married household, just close your eyes and think about it. Women bring new standards to a household but it’s usually undertaken by their hand.
What changed?
Well, before the pandemic a lot of men benefitted from a great excuse. They probably weren’t home. With remote work not really a conventional “thing” many male professionals worked outside the home and thus were less available. When the pandemic came, all of a sudden you had both partners at home working remotely which raised questions like, “We are both here, so what can we each do?” When men became a lot more present in the…
