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What It Is Like to be Married to a Twin
There are so many different people you can marry or have a relationship with — an only child, someone who had five older siblings, the oldest of five siblings. Each comes with their unique personality characteristics carried in from childhood and bring different challenges and experiences. Marrying a twin has to be the most unique one of these situations you can find yourself in out of all these possibilities.
I am not saying all twins are the same (lol) but let me share what I’ve learned from my experience.
Independence- Imagine there were two of you walking this Earth. Someone who looks and sounds just like you, and by default already your best friend. Would you naturally be as inclined to seek out the company of others? The answer is most likely no. Before you even developed consciousness, you had someone nudging you, offering the company that we single children continue to seek throughout our adult lives.
I have learned that twins crave independence and autonomy like I crave the company of others. Having a copy of themselves, they do not want to blend into groups as much as they want to individuate. A social situation must be entered meeting their individual criteria and needs as a means for distinguishing themselves. As a friend or husband, they may not feel as obliged to get…
